For women who surrendered their only child/ren to adoption and had no others.
If you are reading this page and surrendered your
only child/ren to adoption, then welcome!
You are not alone any more,
browse our website and consider becoming a member of this refreshing oasis
we have come to think of as our home away from home.
women who come from all walks of life. We are employers, partners,
neighbors, wives, divorcees, sisters and friends, perhaps we never
married, and we all share one thing in common: the loss
of our child/ren to adoption.
Mothers without other children come in ALL packages. Our
group membership consists of:
- Women who never had another child after
surrendering her only child to adoption.
- Women who surrendered two, and three children
and had no others.
- Women with step children who surrendered their
only child to adoption.
- Women who themselves are adoptees, also having
surrendered their only child/ren to adoption.
- Women who adopted special needs Child/ren, who
surrendered her only child to adoption.
- Women who surrendered their infant/s or
toddlers to adoption and had no other children.
- Women who surrendered their child for adoption and lost a raised
child/ren to death.
Our lack of experience in raising our own child/ren sets us apart from
women who had other children.
It is estimated that between 27 to 40% of us never went on to have other
children due to secondary infertility, medical problems, trauma, or
just remaining faithful to our child/rens memories. In the book
The Girls Who Went Away, by Anne Fessler, the
author mentions our support group,
EmptyArms, because "out of 100 women interviewed, 40 of them never had
other children." This is a high percentage.
We are here
to help you navigate reunion by celebrating your good times and holding
your hand through the dark days too. We can help you with a wide
variety of issues, such as composing letters to your child,
or working though the tough issues such as a stalled
reunion. Regardless of the issue we hope to give you better
Maybe you are thinking about finding your long lost child or your child
has recently found you? EmptyArms support group understands how
you feel and more importantly, you will be understood by your
peers. Come learn about reunions from members who are in all stages
of this often emotionally charged but never boring situation. We
often refer to it as the "roller coaster ride" of search and
Your participation in Emptyarms is key to your
success. Our group has at least one or two meet ups every year where
we enjoy each other's company and many of us have formed a sisterhood
from our one common bond.